The abyss can become a familiar space, where light fades and we find ourselves grappling with unresolved struggles. We label these experiences as failure, sin, regret, envy, or guilt, creating a narrative that tells us we are worthless in every trial. Living a lie becomes a burden, affecting the dynamics with our family, friends, or partners, and leading us to blame them for our own momentary actions. While some may react defensively, others choose to respond with understanding and compassion. However, we often find ourselves drawn to toxicity while rejecting peace, revealing our own stubbornness and the arrogance of others. We engage in battles over what we believe is right, sometimes choosing the wrong path with hurtful words or misguided actions. Interacting with new people can spark jealousy, which, while natural, can turn unhealthy if we are not mindful.
Having wandered through negativity for too long, I realized that a shift was essential. The only way forward is to accept our reality, acknowledging that we create habits that imprison us. Inspired by successful leaders like Tony Robbins, we can develop a new persona and commit to it on a daily basis. Yet, I've experienced that feeling of inauthenticity. If you discover a passion that brings you joy while causing no harm, embrace it. Growing personally is vital. Helping others is essential, but we must prioritize our mental well-being to avoid becoming a burden ourselves.
Consider the biblical example: Martha feels overwhelmed and frustrated that her sister Mary isn’t helping with the work. She pleads with Jesus, “Lord, don’t you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!” Jesus gently responds, “Martha, you are worried about many things, but few things are needed or indeed only one. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.”
Identify your priorities and avoid dwelling on trivial matters, although I understand this is easier said than done. We can either wallow in negativity or rise to meet challenges head-on. It's possible to find happiness even in the face of overwhelming debt or fear of losing peace of mind. You can choose to take my advice or remain in the cycle of seeking happiness externally instead of realizing that true happiness comes from within.